I spotted my first hint of Xmas cheer today as I strolled through the Thamel, Kathmandu. There it was, a fake pine decorated with strips of coloured paper and paper machéd objects thrown hastily on its branches. I glance upward and read ‘Pilgrims Book Shop’.
Still something in me felt slightly warmed and comforted by it, and my mind suddenly took flight, listing all the nonsense junk I must purchase to invoke the same nostalgia.
Fake tree, lights, tinsel balls, stars, cardboard to make cards, ribbon for wrapping gifts - gifts....my mental list was now spiralling and I try to gather myself together and proceed on by.
It was the same when friends who are joining us for Xmas began asking what I wanted them to bring over ... hmmm? How much space do you have?
Well last Xmas we, and our children got just about everything they wanted. (Partially because their father was overseas so we tried to fill that gap with extra gifts, and partially because they get presents from everyone including Santa. All requests are covered...and then some!)
"Will Santa know we are here Mum?" asks my son.
"Will all the kids get presents too?"
I pretend not to listen, but he keeps on ... I start to feel nervous.
"Biswash really wants a bike, he might get a bike!"
How long do I continue with this tripe?
It is plainly obvious that little Biswash ain't going to get anything.
His mother is due to have his brother in a month and Father has gone for milk ... 2 weeks ago!
Srijana mother has pulled her from school because she can't afford school shoes.
And well they are Hindu.
"No they don't celebrate Xmas" I mumble
They have their own festivals where they give love and aknowledgement of others, where they also shop madly for useless stuff .
Depending on the festival, one can see streams of people carrying huge bags of powders, sticks, ripped flowers, oils, pieces of charcoal, cloth, food to lay out in a particular way before it is completely smothered by other gifts of thanks.
What a waste I say as I watch it all blow away into nearby drains or streets. They could have eaten that food themselves. (How often have I completely stuffed myself with ham and pudding till almost sick?) I watch as colorful wrapping paper is torn and shredded to almost door height and remember I will definitely recycle it next year...oh! Too late.
Waste!
But all part of a ritual that we mindlessly follow each year even if we endeavour not too.
I have failed again and will no doubt be blasting bing's white Christmas, eating some kind of trifle, roast chicken and bloody marys. It's our ritual and it brings us joy and warm fizzles and it has nothing to do with god, or Santa. It is about us celebrating our family and being together to be so thankful for our family and friends.
Mel Philipps